Mental health is one of the greatest gifts one can get themselves. Your mind controls just about everything that happens in your life from your beliefs about yourself to how you handle what happens around you. The worst enemy you can ever have is not the person who hates you with passion. It is a weak mind. Opportunities can come your way and enemies can do all in their power to disrupt your life but how all that turns out depends on your mental strength. In other terms, your mind has the final say in almost everything your brain processes. However, this does not mean that you do not experience emotions. Rather, you are aware of how certain things affect you and devise ways to survive them, block them, or even use them to your own advantage.
Below are 9 things mentally strong people don’t do:
They are not controlled by other people – they know their purpose and that living it does not depend on anyone else’s power but their will and goals. As much as they understand the importance of creating and maintaining good relationships with other people, they also understand that no one can or should play the role of a god in their lives. The fact that they know their purpose and have clear goals makes them immune to peer pressure. They may err and may need advice but oftentimes, they think through everything they want to do and they have the final say in decisions made concerning their lives. Some people may think they are stubborn but, mentally strong people have their mindset on reaching goals. They prefer to stand out rather than fit in.
They are not controlled by circumstances – mentally strong people do not change their lives based on their situations. They remain focused on their goals and handle situations to work for them or, they give way to situations and overtake them. The point is, whatever happens, a mentally strong person does not change who he or she is.
They do not give up easily – determination defines them. They give their best in everything they do. Where they fail, they take lessons and try again until it works. Of course, this requires them to be realistic and calculative enough to know whether their plan is still as good as they perceived in the beginning. Plans fail for different reasons including that circumstances changed after strategies were formulated or that there were some loopholes.
They don’t compete – their sense of purpose helps them understand that their journey is unique and is not changed by other people’s wins. After all, everything works out fine for everyone at the right time. Therefore, they are happy to celebrate other people’s wins, help where necessary, and keep moving forward. We are not racing against each other. The universe expects each individual to do what they have to do when they are needed to do it to make everything complete.
They don’t hold on to the past – they only take lessons and good memories from the past and let what does not add value to their lives go. They do not hold grudges or hold on to what could have been. Consequently, they heal easier. They understand that the past cannot be changed and, if they hold on to some events, they are most likely to pull them back and create unfavorable events in the present as well. In the end, you remain with a chain of bad events hanging on your back. Burdens!
They don’t seek validation – mentally strong people understand their value and that not everyone will understand their journey or actions. Therefore, they do not seek validation from others. They know where they are going and what it takes. Perhaps it will only make sense to some people as time goes by.
They do not always see themselves as victims – they understand that they are prone to err or that some people are victims too just like them. Everyone is fighting a battle of some sort which then affects their behavior too. Sounds like being naïve right? Well, it is not. Even where you meet unreasonable people it will not harm you to understand that the world does have such people and chose peace. Understand where the other person is coming from or that what seems harmless to you may be harmful to them based on their experiences.
They don’t fear facing challenges – they understand that it is better to try and fail than to not try at all. Trying can bring unexpected victory or help you learn but, if you do not try you will always wonder how things would have turned out if you had tried. On top of that, the fear of trying to face that challenge or something similar will remain or worsen.
They don’t feel the world owes them – they understand that everyone has their own race to run and their own problems. As a result, people may not always be there to help when they are in need and that’s ok! We all have a right to choose what we do, how we do it, and when to do it for as long as we do not intentionally hurt others.
Stay safe and Be Well
The Positive Professional 🙂